General Resources

I believe that growth unfolds through insight, courage, and connection. The resources below include books, podcasts, and organizations I commonly recommend to clients and families when they are seeking more insight. They reflect a range of perspectives—neuroscience, attachment, somatic work, experiential approaches, contemplative wisdom, and trauma-informed practice. Every person and every family is unique, so I do not endorse each resource as a perfect fit for everyone. Instead, think of this list as a curated starting point: tools that many people have found supportive, grounding, or clarifying on their journey. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and feel free to bring any reflections into our work together. Also remember, many times, we cannot think our way through our problems.

Parenting Resources

Books

  • The Whole-Brain Child — Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson

  • No-Drama Discipline — Siegel & Bryson

  • Parenting From the Inside Out — Siegel & Hartzell

  • The Power of Showing Up — Siegel & Bryson

  • Good Inside — Dr. Becky Kennedy

  • The Connected Child — Karyn Purvis, David Cross & Wendy Sunshine (excellent for adoption/foster care)

  • Theraplay: Helping Parents and Children Build Better Relationships Through Attachment-Based Play — Phyllis Booth & Ann Jernberg

Websites & Programs

Recommended Podcasts

  • Good Inside with Dr. Becky

  • Ask the Experts (Child Mind Institute)

  • Janet Lansbury: Unruffled (RIE parenting)

  • Raising Good Humans

Couples Resources

Books

  • Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship — Terry Real

  • Fierce Intimacy — Terry Real

  • You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For (IFS) — Richard Schwartz

  • The New Rules of Marriage — Terry Real

  • Hold Me Tight — Dr. Sue Johnson

  • Eight Dates — John & Julie Gottman

  • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work — Gottman

Websites & Programs

  • Relational Life Institute (Terry Real) — RLT resources & trainings on relational living, trauma, narcissism, self-esteem, etc.

  • ICEEFT — Emotionlly Focused Therapy resources & therapist finder

  • IFS Institute — Couples Work

  • Gottman Institute — Tools, workshops, and assessments

Podcasts

  • Where Should We Begin? — Esther Perel

  • Small Things Often — Gottman Institute

Mental Health & Healing Resources

Healing is rarely linear. It involves curiosity, compassion, and the courage to feel what has long been avoided. The resources below draw from neuroscience, trauma research, somatic therapies, Internal Family Systems (IFS), attachment science, existential and contemplative wisdom, and relational approaches to emotional health. Consider them an entry point — not a prescription. Explore what resonates, set aside what doesn’t, and bring anything you’re curious about into our work together.

Books

Trauma, Embodiment, & Integration

  • My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies — Resmaa Menakem

  • The Body Keeps the Score — Bessel van der Kolk

  • No Bad Parts — Richard Schwartz

  • Waking the Tiger — Peter Levine

  • In an Unspoken Voice — Peter Levine

  • Trauma and Recovery — Judith Herman

  • What Happened to You? — Bruce Perry & Oprah Winfrey

  • The Deepest Well — Nadine Burke Harris

  • The Myth of Normal — Gabor Maté

  • The Wisdom of Your Body — Hillary McBride

  • Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image — Hillary McBride

  • Letting Go of Self-Destructive Behaviors: A Workbook of Hope and Healing — Lisa Ferentz

  • Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence — Daniel J. Siegel

Addiction, Codependency, & Compassionate Recovery

  • In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts — Gabor Maté

  • Breathing Under Water: Spirituality and the Twelve Steps — Richard Rohr

  • Codependent No More — Melody Beattie

  • Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change — Foote, Wilkens, Kosanke

  • Lost Connections — Johann Hari

  • The Deepest Well — Nadine Burke Harris

  • The Red Road to Wellbriety: In the Native American Way — White Bison, Inc.

Emotional Health, Anxiety & Depression

  • The Chemistry of Joy — Henry Emmons

  • The Chemistry of Calm — Henry Emmons

  • I Don’t Want to Talk About It — Terry Real (male depression)

  • Hardwiring Happiness — Rick Hanson (neuroscience + positive neuroplasticity)

Relationships, Boundaries, & Emotional Patterns

  • The New Rules of Marriage — Terry Real

  • Fierce Intimacy — Terry Real

  • The Dance of Anger — Harriet Lerner

  • The Dance of Intimacy — Harriet Lerner

  • The Dance of Connection — Harriet Lerner

  • Mating in Captivity — Esther Perel

  • The State of Affairs — Esther Perel

  • Set Boundaries, Find Peace — Nedra Glover Tawwab

  • Drama Free — Nedra Glover Tawwab

  • The Language of Letting Go — Melody Beattie

Contemplative, Spiritual, Existential, & Meaning-Making

  • Falling Upward — Richard Rohr

  • The Wisdom of the Enneagram — Riso & Hudson (for self-understanding)

  • When Things Fall Apart — Pema Chödrön

  • Radical Acceptance — Tara Brach

  • The Book of Forgiving — Desmond Tutu & Mpho Tutu

  • Man’s Search for Meaning — Viktor Frankl

  • Holy Hurt— Hillary McBride

Websites & Programs